Setting goals in your relationship may or may not be something you’re intentional about. But if you’re making a list of resolutions for the new year, it’s a great time to add relationship goals to that list. Wondering where to start and how to go about it?
Check out this week’s podcast episode, where I go over all this plus some vital basics to get you thinking.
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It’s normal in relationships to be growing at a different rate than your partner. But as one listener asks, how can you deal with the difference…and how long should you wait to be on the same page?
This is a great question, and Ellen and I share our thoughts on it in this week’s episode. Listen for both of our perspectives—and let us know your thoughts as well! We love to hear your feedback.
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We all can’t deny the world is in a precarious place these days for many reasons. So what are some things we can do to improve the state we’re in?
I talk in this week’s podcast episode with author and speaker Danielle LaPorte, whose calm demeanor and beneficial guidance on subjects like parenting, relationships, love, and simplifying will make you think about what you can do to change your world.
Take a listen to the episode and see what you think.
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Are you and your partner really compatible? How can you know for sure?
Well, there’s another way to look at it—a better question to ask yourself. It’s important, and it can be the determining factor in the success or failure of your relationship.
So what’s that question? Ellen and I talk about it in this week’s episode... check it out for yourself!
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Could a yoga practice benefit your closest relationships? In this week’s episode, Ellen and I do a joint interview with Lara Heimann, physical therapist and creator of the unique LYT Yoga® method. Listen to the episode to hear Lara’s take on where yoga fits into your personal growth, mental and spiritual health, and your relationships.
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Society teaches us that certain traits should go with certain genders, and we have traditionally been programmed to accept those—but in reality, they aren’t always accurate. Not to mention one person’s idea of a trait that’s traditionally masculine or feminine won’t be the same as another’s. So how do we reframe the way we think about masculine/feminine traits and roles in relationships, regardless of gender identity or relationship preference? Check out this week’s episode to find out what Ellen and I have to say.
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You gotta admire those older couples who have been married for a billion years and still seem blissfully happy. It seems pretty amazing and inspiring. But if you ask them, they’ll surely tell you they’ve had their issues—maybe even some significant ones.
In this week’s episode, I talk to Harville and Helen, who have been married for quite a while, but they almost got divorced. They’ve been teaching couples how to do relationships for many years—and learning a ton as they go.
Listen to the episode to hear the valuable ground they cover and how they reversed their decision to divorce.
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It can be easy to talk about commitment in a partnership and going “all in.” But what does that look like in the day-to-day? It’s important to know when you’re in a relationship that you and your partner are both 100% committed, and in order to know that, you have to take a look at what that means.
In this week’s podcast, Ellen and I give our perspectives on the subject and our answers to this great question from a Relationship School student. Check out the episode!
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Can you be your authentic self in a relationship and allow your partner to do the same—while accepting the differences? This concept is called differentiation, and it’s very important in relationships because it affects a lot of relational elements. For this week’s podcast, I welcome back Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. to discuss these concepts and share her wisdom gathered over years of working with couples. Listen to the episode... I think it’ll resonate with you.
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Conflict is almost always a growth opportunity, and you’re going to experience it in every relationship. But is it possible to have too much conflict in your relationship? If so, how do you know you’ve reached that point—and what can you do about it? Check out this week’s episode, where Ellen and I give our perspectives on the subject.
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How does your career tie into your core values, happiness, and life path? Is it “just a job,” or should it be something you find truly fulfilling—and how can you determine exactly what you’ll find fulfilling? In this week’s episode, I talk with career coach, speaker, and author Ashley Stahl—whose experience working in national security led her on a journey toward discovering her own career purpose: helping others discover theirs. You’ll want to take notes for this insight-filled episode!
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How can you know whether to continue or end a relationship? It’s a big and difficult decision, one that many couples experience. For Anya and Bodhi, their love keeps them together, but they also aren’t moving forward. Check out this week’s episode for my coaching session with this couple and learn my advice for them.
Last week we covered how to get back to a good place.
This week we continue with part 2.
As humans, we can’t avoid conflict. We all say and do things we regret later on...and it’s super easy to start blaming the other person when you’re upset.
But there’s one thing you can do—and it’s detailed in my book, Getting to Zero—to start the repair process. I talk about it in this week’s episode, and even more in the book, so you’ll want to take a listen to the podcast for some tidbits and then order the book for tons more depth. The book is out now, so check it out and let me know your thoughts!
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Do you find it tough getting back to a good place after conflict in a relationship—the place where you feel connected and content? It’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of conflict, but the good news is that you can master resolution skills in your important relationship(s). You can learn to get back to that healthy place. It’s something we all have to work on—in fact, when I wrote my book, Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships, I wrote it for myself. But now I’m sharing it with the world. For a sneak peek into some of the tools I cover in the book, check out this week’s podcast: How to Get Back to a Good Place part 1. And don’t forget you can pre-order the book (for a little longer) to get in on the extras!
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Since it’s a huge part of relationships, I talk quite a bit about conflict and how to work through it. In fact, my new book, Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships, will be releasing in a few short days! So in this week’s podcast episode, Ellen and I talk more about the book and how it came about, plus some of our own conflict challenges and how we’ve dealt with them. Check out the episode below—and don’t forget you can pre-order the book now so you get it delivered on release day (October 5).
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What do you think of when you hear someone mention self-soothing? Maybe some coping behaviors you learned as a child or have seen children exhibit?Sometimes those behaviors can carry over into our adult lives (glass of wine after a rough day...or zoning out in front of the TV/game system, perhaps). But how do those self-soothing behaviors fit into adult relationships—or should they at all?
This week, Ellen and I answer a listener question on this subject. Check out the podcast episode here.
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What’s your mindset when it comes to taking care of your body? If you get injured, do you just let a professional (physical therapist, chiropractor, surgeon, etc.) try to fix the problem? Or do you take a proactive approach where you apply effort to your body in order to avoid repeating the injury or getting a new one? Your mindset can mean the difference between growth and keeping yourself in constant pain. Guess what—the same thing applies to relationships. Check out this week’s podcast, where Ellen and I discuss how the two are similar and what we’ve learned from our own experiences.
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Fathers in today’s culture are often expected to do more and be more than in the past—and it can be a challenge. At the same time, fatherhood can be an integral part of your spiritual growth and vice versa. It might feel like each segment of your life is in its own little box, but the reality is that they all affect each other even if we don’t realize it. Join me for this week’s episode as fatherhood coach Dan Doty and I discuss fatherhood, spirituality, and bonding with your kids.
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What’s the difference between coaching and therapy—and how can you tell which one you might need? Actually, both serve a specific purpose and can work together depending on your needs. Check out this week’s podcast episode, where I break down the differences and the reasons you would seek out coaching versus therapy.
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Maybe you feel like you might be codependent (or at least have the tendencies)...which might mean you’re codependent-ish. Did you know that’s a thing? If you’d like to learn more about what it looks like, check out this week’s podcast episode. I talk about just what it means to be codependent-ish and help you discover whether you might be. Tune in to the full episode below for more.
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When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to choose your partner— daily. As men, we often have been programmed to deal with things a certain way (or not deal with them at all), and we most likely expect our partners to do the same. But in order to have a successful relationship, it’s crucial to choose your partner over what you may want in the moment—whether that would be running away or shutting down or escaping. Check out this week’s podcast episode with Bryan Reeves, self-proclaimed relationship insight ninja, on how he learned to choose his partner and move toward a new level of relationship growth.
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Parenting is an important subject, as we all know—whether you are a parent or have only been parented. Regardless, parenting and family dynamics affect us all in some way.
In this week’s episode, Ellen and I share the six best parenting tips we’ve gathered in our experiences and our studies that will help you navigate relationships with your children, your parents, or even other adults.
Listen to the full episode here.
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Marriage and relationships require give and take on both sides. But what if you feel like you’re giving a lot more than your partner is—or vice versa? How do you get past the conflict and competition aspects of a relationship and reach a place where you can experience a balanced, more fulfilled relationship? Check out this week’s episode where I talk to Nate Klemp, author and marriage anthropologist, who has some great things to say.
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Navigating money fears in relationships can be a big source of conflict, but finance guru Garrett Gunderson has tons of knowledge to help. As with anything in life, balance is key. In this week’s episode, Garrett and I talk about finding that balance and following a path of growth by learning from your past. Mindset is a great place to start, and Garrett shows how balancing your mindset can affect every area of your life, including your finances. Check out the episode.
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As men, we sometimes aren’t sure how to show love for our partners in a way that makes them feel loved. We stick with what’s comfortable for us. Check out today’s podcast episode for one mindset shift to help men show love and care to that special person.
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