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Relationship School Podcast

Learn street level, practical tools to have better relationships from a real dude who is a solid husband and father. Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, interviews couples, experts, neuroscientists, therapists, coaches, and everyday people to help you have the best relationships possible. Watch your long-term partnerships, family relationships, friendships, and work relationships get better. Jayson offers a fun action step at the end of each episode. Let's do this people! Let's learn how to love bigger! The world needs it.
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Now displaying: October, 2015
Oct 29, 2015

In this episode, I’m joined by a panel of courageous men: Booster Blake, Jeffrey Platts, Adrial Dale, and Christopher Sunyata.  These men have all done work on themselves, and so are able to get honest and talk openly about their sexuality, their victories and challenges with intimacy, with relationship, and with their bodies in the bedroom.  I think you’ll appreciate the transparency of these men.

SHOWNOTES:

  • How has porn negatively or positively affected your sex life? [29:45]
  • If you played with other boys when you were young, did you ever have any doubts that you were gay because you enjoyed it? [27:05]
  • Did you ever have a sexual experience with a boy? [24:00]
  • When did you first learn to masturbate, and what was it like? [17:30]
  • The men briefly describe their relationships to their cock [13:00]
  • Christopher introduces himself [10:10]
  • Booster Blake introduces himself [8:45]
  • Jeffrey introduces himself [7:35]
  • Adrial introduces himself [6:50]
  • Beginning of interview [6:45]
  • Where do these men draw the line when it comes to fantasizing about other women? [37:30]
  • What’s a victory, or celebratory moment, you’ve had with your cock? [42:00]
  • What are your thoughts on working to transcend pornography?  [48:00]
  • A listening woman asks: What is the best segue to bring up sexual topics when there is shame around the topic? [52:45]
  • What kind of shame have men experienced that have been put on their cocks or their sexuality by women? [58:30]
  • If the woman asks for something different in the bedroom, does a man take this personally and feel like he is not a good enough lover? [1:05:30]
  • Final comments [1:12:45]
Oct 25, 2015

Most of the time, when we fight with a partner, we “bicker” or go in circles because we are missing what the fight is really about.  In this episode we examine the 3 things people fight about most.  It will be essential to listen to this so you know what the deeper layer of your fights are really about.  Why does this matter?  So you can get to the real issue and resolve it.

SHOWNOTES:

  • The 3 types of fights [6:40]
  • Type 1: Security fight – “I don’t feel safe” [7:40]
  • Type 2: Past resentments – Stuff you’ve never dealt with. [11:00]
  • Type 3: Dealing with small, everyday stuff [14:00]
  • Fight, Flight, Freeze – The 3 styles of dealing with conflict [24:40]
Oct 14, 2015

I really enjoyed this conversation with Zen teacher Diane Hamilton. She brings such a genuine willingness to move toward what’s uncomfortable in our relationships. We explore why she left the mormon church and how she got into zen practice. We also take a good look at parenting, marriage, and why it’s so paramount to be able to take our partner’s point of view. I know you’ll appreciate this dialogue.

SHOWNOTES:

  • A special guest kicks off the podcast [0:10]
  • Beginning of the interview [5:20]
  • Diane shares the arc of her life up to this point [6:00]
  • Diane’s “genius zone”: Meditation and Mediation [10:00]
  • Skill with conflict = comfort with difference [16:00]
  • Diane shares about the relationship dynamic with her husband [19:30]
  • Diane defines conflict: “Extreme difference that is fueled by emotion, and is very disruptive to the system” [21:00]
  • Why is conflict “good news”? [22:10]
  • The 3 styles of conflict [24:15]
    • Avoidance
    • Accommodation
    • Aggression
  • How Diane uses meditation to work with conflict [29:00]
  • Diane demos mindfulness meditation [32:50]
  • The yogic practice of hearing perspectives we don’t agree with [39:00]
  • Bringing Zen and Integral into conflict [45:40]
Oct 8, 2015

In this episode I unpack 3 really important steps to removing the drama from your relationships. Drama can be a time suck, an energy drain, and can hurt your relationship even more. So, check this short episode out and notice if you are perpetuating drama, or doing your best to end it.

SHOWNOTES:

  • What does Jayson mean when he says drama? [2:00]
  • 3 main ingredients to ending the drama [4:40]
  • 1. Reframe it and see it as an opportunity rather than a problem [5:50]
  • 2. Say NO to drama, by saying YES to conflict [7:00]
  • 3. Learn the art and wisdom of understanding each other [13:50]
  • What does it mean to validate someone else’s experience? [17:00]
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