This episode was a lot of fun.  Former dedicated David Deida student Adam Gilad brings some excellent advice during this dialogue. We cover fatherhood, dating, marriage, and why Adam couldn’t do relationship early on and what he “figured out” along the way. He also shares his most recent wedding vows and so much more. I think you’re in for a treat here. 

SHOWNOTES:

• What lead Adam to teach about relationship? [3:55]
• A personal share from Jayson: re-writing marriage vows [12:30]
• The #1 thing that made Adam ready for deep relationship [13:40]
• Adam shares his “one vow to rule them all” [15:55]
• Reframe: the idea of marriage as “hard work” [18:10]
• Playing the infinite game of love [25:10]
• Why do people hold back on asking for what they need/want in relationship? [25:10]
• The difference between finding and inspiring love [29:25]
• The 3 ways to inspire love  [33:20]
• Adam’s answer to inspired marriages [43:15]
• Adam brings a vulnerable share [44:55]
• Jayson and Adam swap stories of being a father [47:40]

In this 2nd installment of AMAR (Ask Me Anything about Relationships) I dive into your burning questions and it gets a little intense in there! Thanks for bringing it everyone!

SHOWNOTES:

There’s a lot of great questions in here including:

• How to relate to someone who’s depressed [5:30]
• How to find a great marriage counselor [17:45]
• How to get over years of resentments [26:35]
• What to do if someone is passive aggressive with you [34:25]

And more!

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major culprits to kid’s problems. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…Listen in, then weigh in with a comment below.

SHOWNOTES:

• The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:00]
• What is the real issue here? [8:10]
• The problem with divorce/marriage research [11:45]
• What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:15]
• Relationship tools to use if you want to avoid divorce [17:20]

Co-dependency gets a bad rap in most circles. I used to shame it as well. Yet, as I’ve matured, I’ve come to see that there is a lot of value to be found in co-dependency, yet it’s important to know the difference between the more neurotic kind and the wisdom kind. In this episode I go into what co-dependency is, where it comes from, and how we can relate to it with grace and honesty in our long-term relationships.

SHOWNOTES:

• How does Jayson define co-dependency? [1:30]
• Our two fundamental drives as human beings [3:40]
• The dance of authentic co-dependency [12:00]
• What’s cool about the drive to be authentic… [17:00]