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Relationship School Podcast

Learn street level, practical tools to have better relationships from a real dude who is a solid husband and father. Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, interviews couples, experts, neuroscientists, therapists, coaches, and everyday people to help you have the best relationships possible. Watch your long-term partnerships, family relationships, friendships, and work relationships get better. Jayson offers a fun action step at the end of each episode. Let's do this people! Let's learn how to love bigger! The world needs it.
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Dec 28, 2016

Want to hear how two people move from victim consciousness to a place of empowerment? Alexi and Preston have some bold answers on how to get over your victim mindset when it comes to relationships and your past. If you want to be challenged in a good way, this episode will help you.

SHOWNOTES

  • How did Preston & Alexi begin their journey of personal transformation? [14:00]
  • Why do people struggle in relationship? [21:30]
  • Preston & Alexi's backpack metaphor that helps them thrive in their relationship struggles. [23:00]
  • Why Preston couldn't last 20 minutes watching an HBO show with Alexi. [26:00]
  • The lessons from their last big fight. [30:00]
  • Preston shares the biggest tool a man can use during a fight with his partner. [36:00]
  • The deadly sins of love. [42:00]
  • The difference between victim and victim consciousness. [45:30]
  • Your action step. [53:00]

 

GUEST BIO

As the Co-Founders and Co-Creators of The Bridge Method, Alexi Panos and Preston Smiles have supported thousands of people who have dramatically changed their lives by participating in their various programs and workshops all over the world.

For the past 10 years, they've both dedicated their lives to learning as much as they could about Human Potential, Positive Psychology, NLP, Ontology of Language, Transformative Studies, Somatic Training, and Esoteric Wisdom to step into their own leadership and truly "walk the walk" of this work.  They are insanely committed to leading others on this same path, and empowering them to step fully into their unique gifts to create a world that works for everyone.

Recently married, this couple is truly committed to transforming the way the world works, by transforming the lives of individuals. They currently speak and lead workshops all over the world (both together and separate), as well as run their own widely successful inspirational YouTube Channels.  Both Preston + Alexi released their first solo books in June 2016 under the publishing house of Simon + Schuster; and will be releasing their first collaborative book with the same publisher in January 2017. http://alexiandpreston.com

 

Dec 21, 2016

Is your relationship boring or are you boring? Or, better yet, are you just stuck and unsure of how to deepen your relationship? Boredom is a sign that you are missing something, big. Human beings are not boring. Yes, they may have stunted their development, but behind that wall is a massive ocean to explore. Listen up and find out how to get beyond boring.

SHOWNOTES

  • The piece of chocolate that sparked this podcast episode. [9:00]
  • The common phrases we here about monogamy? [10:45]
  • What causes the initial boredom after we get married? [12:00]
  • The traps you might fall into when feeling bored in your relationship. [17:00]
  • The 5 steps to take as soon as you notice you're feeling bored in your relationship. [19:00]
  • The power of the uncomfortable conversation. [21:00]
  • Your action step. [31:30]
Dec 14, 2016

Want to hear how one man got his wife back after a separation on the brink of divorce? It's actually quite simple but requires a certain kind of man to be able to follow through with it and execute. If you are a man, this is essential information if your marriage is on the rocks.

SHOWNOTES

  • How & why did Ryan start Order of Man? [6:00]
  • What is the current state of men in general? [7:30]
  • What was the impact of not growing up with a father? [9:00]
  • When did Ryan realize the "honeymoon" phase of marriage was over? [12:00]
  • The two big things that Ryan did to get his wife back. [18:00]
  • Did therapy help Ryan and his wife? [21:30]
  • The huge trap that many men fall into in a marriage. [28:00]
  • The trick to not fall into blame or victimhood. [35:00]
  • Your action step. [42:00]

GUEST BIO

Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world’s most complicated problems could be solved if men everywhere learned how to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders. It has now become his life’s mission to help men across the planet step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. You can find him blogging and podcasting at Order of Man where he is working to help men become all they were meant to be. http://www.orderofman.com 

 

Dec 7, 2016

Is the female orgasm that complicated and powerful? It can be for some of us, but in this episode, women's sexuality pioneer and sexologist Betty Dodson offers some extremely practical, no-nonsense advice for women (and men) around the orgasm. Hear some enlightening and very intimate details of what a woman can do to dissolve the shame and step into true enjoyment of an orgasm. From group sex to being witnessed masturbating, this episode is sure to confront you and lift you up.

SHOWNOTES

  • How did Betty get first started in teaching sex and orgasm? [8:30]
  • What's the current state of feminism and sexuality? [11:00]
  • What does a bodysex group do? [12:00]
  • Why is this kind of bodysex work important for women? [16:30]
  • How often should a woman orgasm to give her vitality? [18:00]
  • Have they figured out where the fluid of a G-spot orgasm comes from? [19:00]
  • What does Betty think about Orgasmic Meditation (OMing)? [20:00]
  • Betty's suggestions on how to experience your first female orgasm. [24:00]
  • Does feeling safe with a partner matter affect the quality of the orgasm? [26:00]
  • How to create a sex-positive world? [27:30]
  • Betty's thoughts on using sex toys for orgasm. [32:00]
  • Is monogamy realistic? [34:00]
  • Best way to heal from sexual shame & trauma? [36:00]
  • Betty's best advice for married couples to revive their sex life. [39:00]
  • Your action step. [43:00]

 

Nov 30, 2016

A brave smart couple shares their "dark period" and how they got through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years, and then adds in a child to the mix, will pretty much get rocked. Tripp and Alyson share what happened and how they got through it. From their day to day check-ins, emotional distance and meltdowns, to transforming their sex life after kids, you are going to love how this couple rocked it out. And hopefully, you can take a few tips home to your relationship.

SHOWNOTES

  • The story of how Tripp & Alyson met. [10:00]
  • Tripp and Alyson's wild first few dates. [16:00]
  • How reclaim their connection when it's off. [21:30]
  • How did Tripp learn to be curious? [30:00]
  • One period that challenged their relationship. [31:00]
  • What Tripp had to face in himself to get out of his comfort zone. [38:00]
  • Who did they each reach out to for support during their challenging times? [50:00]
  • Why you can't rely on your partner to fulfill all your needs. [55:00]
  • How to keep your sex life alive after kids. [58:00]
  • Tripp shares his own evolution of his relationship to sex.  [1:08:00]
  • The framework they both set in their wedding vows [1:15:00]
  • Your action step. [1:23:00]

 

Nov 22, 2016

Family drama will show you exactly where you and your partner are or are not aligned. Not knowing how to navigate your own triggers around your family can lead to some strange and even painful "gifts" over the holidays. That's why I'm spending an episode on how to deal with the likely family drama that will occur this holiday season. This will help you and your partner (or future partner) know what to do to reduce the stress and be more of a team. That way you can actually enjoy yourself during the holidays!

SHOWNOTES

  • Jayson shares his initial stumbles in trying to "fix" his family dynamic. [7:00]
  • What a typical holiday dinner looks like. [9:15]
  • What is your role in your family dynamic? [11:45]
  • 7 tips to better navigate your upcoming family gathering. [13:30]
  • The responsibility of the most emotionally mature person in the room. [15:00]
  • The surprising benefit of having your partner's back. [20:00]
  • How to flip your expectation of wanting your family to be curious about you. [22:00]
  • The truth about judgment. [24:30]
  • Jayson gives you an action step. [32:00]
Nov 16, 2016

Why do men need more solid men around them? In this episode, we explore the power of getting very honest with other men and how that can benefit your relationships to women. Our guest John Wineland shares his personal story and offers practical yet embodied tips for how a man can learn how to do relationships in a much more powerful and sustainable way. 

SHOWNOTES

  • How did John get into men's work? [9:30]
  • The massive opportunity and lessons in fatherhood. [12:30]
  • How death has been one of John's biggest teachers. [18:00]
  • Why just having guy friends is sometimes not enough. [21:00]
  • Does every man need a men's group? [24:30]
  • What is the most powerful spiritual work that John now does? [35:00]
  • What can a woman do to help her man get into men's work? [38:00]
  • The game-changing move that a man can do to transform his relationship. [45:00]
  • Jayson gives an action step. [58:00]

 

Nov 9, 2016

In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understanding their partner's personality type. These two use Myers-Briggs, the enneagram, and other personality tests to understand themselves and each other better. I think you'll get a couple of new insights from Joel and Antonia's story that can help you right now in your own relationship. Pay special attention to what they do well and how they work through challenges in a collaborative way. 

SHOWNOTES

  • What is a "social technology"? [8:30]
  • Why do you need to understand your partner's personality style? [14:00]
  • How did Joel and Antonia start studying personality? [15:15]
  • The unique history of the Myers-Briggs typing system. [17:00]
  • How thinkers and feelers can work well in relationships. [22:00]
  • Can your learn from your partner's personality style? [32:00]
  • The impact of masculine or feminine personality types. [35:00]
  • The two kinds of thinking styles. [38:30]
  • The best place to start to figure out you & your partner's personality type? [42:00]
  • The traps of personality tests. [44:00]
  • One thing to never do with your partner. [47:30]
  • What caused Joel and Antonia to dive into personal growth? [49:00]
Nov 2, 2016

In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual movement and instead offering grounded, practical, embodied suggestions and pathways to continue to deepen into our wholeness. This one may get uncomfortable depending on where you fall in this conversation. It is my wish that you feel challenged and grow from it.

 

SHOWNOTES

  • What is Soulshaping? [12:40]
  • What are the most common human struggles that Jeff sees in his work? [14:00]
  • Why most people meditate and so “solo spirituality” over relationships. [16:30]
  • Jeff’s personal definition of spirituality [18:00]
  • How are some teachings distorting the ideas of spirituality and emotions? [19:30]
  • What can men do to grow spiritually? [24:00]
  • The lesson Jeff learned from selling windows door-to-door. [27:00]
  • How can women help men awaken? [29:30]
  • How do Jeff and partner navigate conflict in their relationship? [32:45]
  • Jeff gives his opinion on polyamory. [38:00]
  • What are Jeff’s preferred practices for personal growth? [39:45]
  • Jeff’s twist on the New Age movement. [43:00]
  • Why are relationships so hard? [46:00]

 

Oct 26, 2016

You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been there. Well, in this episode, we discuss how important it is to interrupt them and take command of the conversation. Wait, Am I suggesting you get aggressive? No way. I’m asking that you show your “care” for them by listening in an entirely different way.

SHOWNOTES

  • What is “captive audience”? [7:30]
  • Who is responsible when someone talks too much in an interaction? [10:30]
  • What is active listening? [12:15]
  • The gift that you might be giving the “over-talker”. [14:00]
  • Jayson gives some examples on how to interrupt. [15:30]
  • Jayson shares a personal story of a dude that talked WAY too much and what Jayson did about it. [21:30]
  • Jayson’s action steps for the listener [25:00]
Oct 19, 2016

Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to identify the ways in which you disconnect and locate the source. After some self-inquiry there, you can learn how to reconnect to you, and your partner. Listen to this one to learn how.

SHOWNOTES

  • Should you expect that your marriage will last forever? [4:00]
  • Do you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship? [5:30]
  • The 10 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself. [9:30]
  • The 8 steps to reconnect. [15:00]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener [24:00]
Oct 12, 2016

Do men change? Can they overcome their blocks? Of course. But sometimes, they need a little permission or a nudge from another man. I’m always thrilled to meet men who help other men come out of their conditioning. This week, I interview Connor Beaton, who is doing just that through his ManTalks events. Check it out.

SHOWNOTES

  • What is ManTalks? [9:00]
  • The rock bottom that Connor experienced that caused him to shift his life. [10:30]
  • The two options that Connor chose between. [18:00]
  • How traditional masculinity is a pitfall for many men.  [22:00]
  • What does Connor see as the main challenge for men in relationships? [24:30]
  • The unique role of women and personal growth. [26:00]
  • Some the things that make men’s work not as accessible to most men. [28:00]
  • Connor’s biggest lesson in relationships. [33:30]
  • The reality about men and vulnerability. [35:00]
  • Jayson’s action steps for the listener [41:00]
Oct 5, 2016

Do you want more connection while your partner wants more space? One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. In the second of our two-part series, Ellen and I help the distancers understand and deal with your pursuing partner.

SHOWNOTES

  • What does it mean to the distancer with a pursuer partner? [7:00]
  • Is the pursuer really being needy when they want attention from a distancer? [10:00]
  • The link between a pursuer and their childhood relationship with their caregiver. [12:30]
  • A better way to ask for space. [15:00]
  • Why the pursuer can be an MVP in a long-term relationship. [19:30]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener [23:00]

 

Sep 28, 2016

One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. What is going on here and how do you deal with a partner who needs a lot or one who is distancing. In the first of our two part series, Ellen and I help the pursuers (connectors) understand and deal with your distancing partner.

SHOWNOTES

  • What is the pursuer/distancer dynamic? [10:30]
  • What’s going on with the distancer when they are asking for time and space? [12:30]
  • What 2 things do you need to balance when dealing with someone who is distancing. [17:30]
  • The single focus trap that pursuers can fall into. [21:30]
  • How time agreements can make re-connecting easier. [25:30]
  • The positive side of being someone who is a distancer? [26:30]
  • Quick review of the 5 tips [28:00]
  • How this dynamic can be different in a marriage vs dating. [29:00]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener [33:00]
Sep 21, 2016

Running away from relationship pain and problems often just creates more problems. Here I remind you why facing pain is useful. Check it out. Now.

SHOWNOTES

  • The simple point of relationship pain. [10:00]
  • The smarter strategy when you’re triggered by your partner. [10:45]
  • How Jayson’s back pain woke him up to something deeper. [13:15]
  • Erectile dysfunction and Viagra as an example of what NOT to do with relationship pain. [16:00]
  • The big signs that you’re hitting the snooze button on your relationship pain. [18:30]
  • Jayson gives your action step. [23:00]
Sep 14, 2016

The grass is greener with that other person! I used to think this quietly in my mind all the time, no matter who I was with. In this episode, I share my personal drama with this mentality and what it’s really about. Not only that, I offer something to help you get through it. It might just make you more likely to commit to the one you’re with.

SHOWNOTES

  • Jayson shares his personal story about leaving relationships when the going got tough. [8:45]
  • The kinds of partners who will more likely have a “grass is greener” mentality. [11:00]
  • How closeness and space impact ambivalence. [13:00]
  • Will a new partner solve the current problem or bad feelings I’m having? [16:15]
  • Jayson’s recommendation if you’re wanting to jump from relationship to relationship. [18:00]
  • When the grass really is greener over there and it might be time to exit. [21:15]
  • Jayson’s action steps for the listener. [ 24:45]
Sep 7, 2016

It’s really normal to experience jealousy, depression, anger, intense attraction and so much more when you find yourself in a good relationship. Our relationships trigger the deepest of human emotions and experiences. In this episode, I answer some fun, very painful, and challenging questions from you the listener. Notice how all of these questions may bring up stuff from your past or present relationship and see if you can find the nugget in each question that you can learn something from.

 

SHOWNOTES

  • What’s really happening when someone says “you make me feel X”. [6:45]
  • Is it a mistake to stay with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic? [9:30]
  • How to deal with premature ejaculation after you’re married? [12:15]
  • One factor that will guarantee your relationship is doomed. [15:30]
  • How to get your boyfriend to talk more when all he wants is occasional texting? [16:30]
  • Can a guy be emotionally mature if he doesn’t like to talk about his feelings five months into a relationship? [18:15]
  • When a partner struggles with depression, how do deal with a big transition when moving to a new country? [21:45]
  • A partner goes MIA after his mother dies, does this mean the relationship over? [25:45]
  • Is there a limit to being too open and honest with your partner? [30:30]
  • Jealousy when your boyfriend has a lot of interaction with other women on Facebook? [34:00]
  • The best way to eliminate anger? [37:00]
  • Best approach for a couple that is going to be long-distance for two years? [40:30]
  • Personality disorders and loving yourself? [42:45]
  • How to regain trust when a partner refuses to open up? [47:15]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener. [50:00]

 

Aug 31, 2016

It is possible to rewire your brain in relationships and build inner strength. In fact, if you don’t work toward this, you’ll be in trouble down the road when the allostatic load catches up to you later in life. In this episode I interview Dr. Rick Hanson. He’s a passionate expert on mindfulness, the brain, neuroscience and relationships. We geek out on the intricacies of the brain but he also brings some very practical tools and insights on how we can improve our relationships by using the natural genius of our mind. Lots of notes to take on this one! Hang in there. It can get dense. 

 

SHOWNOTES

  • Why Jayson was anti-marriage until age 34 [2:00]
  • How did Dr. Hanson get so passionate about brain science and relationships? [11:00]
  • A Native American story about love and hate [13:00]
  • Why is so difficult for couples to work their shit out? [17:30]
  • What are two lessons from the wiring of our ancestors’ nervous systems? [19:30]
  • Two practices to rewire your brain to build your inner psychological strength [22:00]
  • How to stop the negativity train of our mind when we’re already triggered [25:00]
  • Tips for developing ourselves before we get into a fight with our partners [32:30]
  • What happens in our brains when we are triggered by our partner? [46:00]
  • How being chronically frustrated, lonely, let down, disconnected impacts the brain and body. [51:30]
  • The ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions [60:00]
  • A 10-day challenge to the listener on how to radically shift the dynamic in your relationship. [65:00]
Aug 24, 2016

Maureen writes “I’ve really lost interest in your work since you said on your webinar that if you get cheated on it’s your fault.” Thanks Maureen for prompting this episode because so many people get “fault” confused with “responsibility.” This episode sets it straight. I clear up what it means to choose to be a victim and to choose to be empowered. Even when someone does something “to you.” After you listen, please share your feedback in The Smart Couple Facebook Group.

Also check out the blog post on the same subject here.

SHOWNOTES

  • Why people love and hate meditation. [3:30]
  • The difference between fault and responsibility. [6:15]
  • The best way to get back into the driver’s seat of your own empowerment. [9:30]
  • How to not get cheated on again. [10:15]
  • The difference between the victim and the empowered person. [12:00]
  • Jayson’s challenge for the listener. [19:30]
Aug 17, 2016

Chris and Billy Jo are two podcast listeners who won a chance to be interviewed and laser coached by me on the podcast. As you listen, pay close attention to their dynamic, their openness to feedback and most importantly a commitment to growing individually and as a couple. If you got value from this episode format, please share your feedback in The Smart Couple Facebook Group and I’ll do more!

 

SHOWNOTES

  • How did Chris & Billiejo meet and how long have they been together? [8:00]
  • When did they know it was the right time to tell the kids about their relationship? [11:15]
  • Their advice for couples on how to introduce your kids to your new dating partner? [13:30]
  • How has The Smart Couple Podcast helped Chris & Billiejo in their relationship? [15:30]
  • The big lesson that Billiejo learned from a big fight with Chris [19:00]
  • Jayson gives his laser coaching on how to move beyond their repeating patterns. [20:15]
  • The best reframe to heal from blame and resentment with an ex. [24:00]
  • What to do to move beyond infidelity. [28:30]
  • Jayson gives an action step to heal and process blame. [34:00]

 

Aug 10, 2016

Codependency gets a bad rap. Parenting your partner? Who wants be married to their mom or dad? But there’s more to the story here. And lots of gold if you’re willing to reframe and play the “attachment” game in your primary relationship. My wife Ellen joins me again with her attachment knowledge and personal experience on how to track and parent your partner. We give some personal examples from our marriage as well.

SHOWNOTES

  • Why do people freak out when they hear the idea of “parenting your partner” or “co-dependency”? [13:30]
  • What is attachment in a relationship? [18:00]
  • The huge benefit of using the lens of attachment in a relationship. [20:30]
  • What does it mean to parent your partner? [21:45]
  • Track my partner? What does that even mean? [23:45]
  • The “secure home base” and how it can be a great barometer of the relationship. [25:30]
  • The physiological cost of not giving attention to your primary relationship. [27:45]
  • 3 action steps you can take today to improve your relationship. [29:30]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener. [36:30]
  • Leave your comments in Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group
Aug 3, 2016

Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen.

SHOWNOTES

  • Why we’re evolutionarily wired to get high off of the honeymoon phase of a new relationship. [2:30]
  • What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [13:30]
  • How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [15:35]
  • What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [18:00]
  • The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [20:00]
  • How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [22:30]
  • The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [24:30]
  • What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [34:00]
  • Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [38:00]
  • What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [40:30]
  • How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [42:00]
  • The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [46:00]
  • Jayson gives an action step [50:30]

 

Jul 27, 2016

Fighting, arguing, and disagreeing are essential in a relationship, But it’s critical to know how. Here’s a short episode to help you understand how to calm down so you don’t do or say something you’ll later regret.

SHOWNOTES

  • Why Jayson doesn’t recommend long-term relationship for everyone. [1:45]
  • Why do some couples that use one single email account? Share your thoughts in the private Facebook group [6:15]
  • The likely reason you struggle with conflict in your relationship. [9:30]
  • What defines a fight? [15:00]
  • The 5 steps [15:45]
  • You must have this ingredient whenever you do a “time-out” during a fight. [17:30]
  • The sure-fire recipe for divorce and breakups. [24:00]
  • Jayson’s two powerful action steps for this episode. [28:00]
Jul 20, 2016

In this Q&A episode, there were so many great questions. See the show notes below for a detailed line-up.

SHOWNOTES

  • How can I train myself to not go to an extreme dark place when I’m triggered by my partner? [4:30]
  • A tool for calming yourself down. [6:00]
  • What’s the best way to balance individual freedom in a relationship to avoid power struggles?  [6:45]
  • How to know when to stay in a relationship and when to leave? [9:30]
  • Why is my husband not desiring me and initiating physical intimacy and passion? [11:45]
  • My boyfriend surfs porn, a LOT. Is this normal? Should I break up with him? [17:30]
  • Should I move back in with my ex? How do I know if he’s forgiving me? [22:00]
  • My partner says he’s not sure if he still has feelings for his ex. What should I do? [25:00]
  • My old boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for eight years, currently off for a year. What’s the best way to get back together? [27:45]
  • The best way to date someone with a mental illness? When do you know if the struggle is too much if they’re not doing the work to get better? [29:45]
  • Someone challenges Jayson on saying “I’m sorry.” [32:15]
  • How do I get my boyfriend to communicate more often and more openly? [34:15]
  • What’s the best way to apply your communication tools with children? Is it the same as with a romantic partner? [35:15]
  • What do you think about when someone says “I’m sorry you feel that way”? [38:15]
  • Should our partner be our “best friend”? [39:30]
  • How do I navigate my fear of enmeshment with my partner’s fear of abandonment? [40:15]
  • Jayson’s powerful action step for this episode. [43:00]

 

Jul 13, 2016

Did I interview Yoda or just world renowned human behavior specialist Dr. John Demartini? Okay, buckle your seat belt for this one and be prepared to have some of your paradigms twisted and your feathers ruffled. I could have grilled this guy for hours, but I kept it to one hour to respect his time. Be sure to listen to this one twice and take notes.  From no one being committed to you, to the fact that everyone is dishonest, I’m sure this episode will confront and serve you in many helpful ways. Enjoy!

SHOWNOTES

  • The one statement Dr. Demartini said that rocked Jayson’s world.  [7:45]
  • How infatuation is an insight to ourselves. [10:30]
  • Dr. Demartini’s relationship status? [11:30]
  • Do long-distance relationships work? [12:30]
  • How to be true to yourself in relationships. [15:45]
  • Dr. Demartini’s date with a 95 year-old lady. [23:00]
  • How our values powerfully influence our lives. [24:45]
  • What about when two partners have opposite values? [27:00]
  • What’s the link between health, stress and values? [32:30]
  • What happens if we run from challenge? [35:00]
  • How to deal with someone who is lying to you. [43:15]
  • What about sexual polarity and passion in relationships?  [45:15]
  • Is quantum entanglement a real phenomenon? [49:00]
  • Why do we tend to attract partners who mimic our parents? [55:45]
  • If you’ve been hurt in a relationship, do you need to heal through relationship? [58:30]
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