In this episode I answer listeners’ questions on long-distance relationships, how to win him back, entitlement and sex, blended families, divorce, and much more. It’s a shorty but a goodie.

SHOWNOTES

• What does an over-supportive relationship look like? [2:30]
• What does it mean when a man says he “needs a break” from the relationship? [4:15]
• How to win back a guy? [6:14]
• What’s the best way to break through your triggers? [7:43]
• How to make a 2nd or 3rd marriage work out? [9:07]
• What to do when your partner only feels criticized? [11:33]
• How to deal with a man who feels sexually entitled? [13:20]
• What is the viability of long-distance relationships? [15:28]
• Jayson’s one-question challenge to listeners [18:17]

In this juicy episode I talk with Alex Allman about men, orgasms and sex. Giving her an orgasm isn’t what you think. Alex helps us get more honest and more present with our sex lives and how crucial it is to have other men in your life to bust your balls when you need it. While this episode is for the men, if you are a woman, I know you’ll appreciate how our guest is trying to help the men dance with you in the bedroom.

SHOWNOTES

• How Alex’s childhood impacted his view of masculinity [5:50]
• The two types of change [11:10]
• Why being beautiful and successful early on makes change harder [12:45]
• What happened when Alex was 39 that forever woke him up. [17:55]
• Why only loving your partner for their positive traits will make you disappointed. [23:30]
• The most important thing for a man to get that is so simple yet so complicated. [32:15]
• How the “doting husband” can be sexually repulsive. [34:15]
• What to do when you have erection troubles in the bedroom. [43:00]

Love. This word is one of the most commonly misunderstood words in the English language. In this podcast I give my definition of what true love really is. Here I cover the 3 stages of love in a relationship. Before age 30, I never got past stage 1. I think by looking at your own experience you too, will see that it’s time to update your definition of love. 

SHOWNOTES

• The difference between love and infatuation. [3:30]
• The truth about love songs on the radio. [5:45]
• What are the three stages of love? [6:37]
• The huge gifts and power in a long-term relationship. [10:50]
• Two action steps to get started today [12:40]

Here I cover 2 types of boundaries. Both are important to learn and practice on a regular basis in your relationship. I also build upon last week’s episode (with Lisa Dion jaysongaddis.com/podcast40). Boundaries separate the classic co-dependent couple from the the smart couple and believe it or not, generate a more fulfilling type of closeness.

SHOWNOTES

• The childhood dynamic that affects our relationships today. [3:27]
• One powerful reality-check question to ask yourself. [5:34]
• An example of when betraying yourself hurts both you and the relationship. [7:45]
• The two types of boundaries [11:05]
• How boundaries help weed out people in your life that aren’t a fit for the real you. [12:30]

Boundaries are by far one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much do you struggle to say no says a lot about how much you value yourself. You must get boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

SHOWNOTES

• The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [5:13]
• The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine there is a threat or challenge [7:24]
• What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [13:20]
• Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [16:33]
• The big fear we all carry in ourselves [20:05]
• The weakness many of us have in receiving a boundary request [22:02]
• What are the most common feedback signs our body tells us? [25:50]
• The three types of boundaries [30:56]
• Jayson issues a boundary challenge [43:04]

Is love earned or given to you? In this podcast, I explore what happens when people say “Can’t you just love me as I am?” and then hope for a great relationship. And I also talk about the best practice to do every day if you want a thriving relationship that works, not just one you stumble through.

In this podcast, I interview Decker Cunov, a leader who has deeply impacted how I show up personally and professionally. For over 10 years, he's been one of the pioneers in a fast-growing transformational practice known as "Circling." As usual Decker packs a punch in his own funky style. Pay special attention to our dynamic near the end.

SHOWNOTES

• Why does Decker care about relationships so much? [4:17]
• What was it like growing up as a sensitive kid. [7:15]
• What IS “circling”? [11:36]
• How circling is and isn’t like meditation. [15:05]
• Why does circling matter in relationships. [15:58]
• A quick way to play “intersubjective tennis” with your partner. [31:34]
• Decker breaks down the steps of circling. [23:35]
• What’s it like to “feel another person” in circling. [29:32]
• Some of the traps of circling. [33:15]
• Decker starts circling Jayson [43:36]
• Jayson’s big aha from circling [50:10]
• What Decker’s son said that blew him away [52:33]
• The one thing that Decker said that personally impacted Jayson [57:01]