Fighting, arguing, and disagreeing are essential in a relationship, But it’s critical to know how. Here’s a short episode to help you understand how to calm down so you don’t do or say something you’ll later regret.

SHOWNOTES

• Why Jayson doesn’t recommend long-term relationship for everyone. [1:45]
• Why do some couples that use one single email account? Share your thoughts in the private Facebook group [6:15]
• The likely reason you struggle with conflict in your relationship. [9:30]
• What defines a fight? [15:00]
• The 5 steps [15:45]
• You must have this ingredient whenever you do a “time-out” during a fight. [17:30]
• The sure-fire recipe for divorce and breakups. [24:00]
• Jayson’s two powerful action steps for this episode. [28:00]

In this Q&A episode, there were so many great questions. See the show notes below for a detailed line-up.

SHOWNOTES

• How can I train myself to not go to an extreme dark place when I’m triggered by my partner? [4:30]
• A tool for calming yourself down. [6:00]
• What’s the best way to balance individual freedom in a relationship to avoid power struggles?  [6:45]
• How to know when to stay in a relationship and when to leave? [9:30]
• Why is my husband not desiring me and initiating physical intimacy and passion? [11:45]
• My boyfriend surfs porn, a LOT. Is this normal? Should I break up with him? [17:30]
• Should I move back in with my ex? How do I know if he’s forgiving me? [22:00]
• My partner says he’s not sure if he still has feelings for his ex. What should I do? [25:00]
• My old boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for eight years, currently off for a year. What’s the best way to get back together? [27:45]
• The best way to date someone with a mental illness? When do you know if the struggle is too much if they’re not doing the work to get better? [29:45]
• Someone challenges Jayson on saying “I’m sorry.” [32:15]
• How do I get my boyfriend to communicate more often and more openly? [34:15]
• What’s the best way to apply your communication tools with children? Is it the same as with a romantic partner? [35:15]
• What do you think about when someone says “I’m sorry you feel that way”? [38:15]
• Should our partner be our “best friend”? [39:30]
• How do I navigate my fear of enmeshment with my partner’s fear of abandonment? [40:15]
• Jayson’s powerful action step for this episode. [43:00]

Did I interview Yoda or just world renowned human behavior specialist Dr. John Demartini? Okay, buckle your seat belt for this one and be prepared to have some of your paradigms twisted and your feathers ruffled. I could have grilled this guy for hours, but I kept it to one hour to respect his time. Be sure to listen to this one twice and take notes.  From no one being committed to you, to the fact that everyone is dishonest, I’m sure this episode will confront and serve you in many helpful ways. Enjoy!

SHOWNOTES

• The one statement Dr. Demartini said that rocked Jayson’s world.  [7:45]
• How infatuation is an insight to ourselves. [10:30]
• Dr. Demartini’s relationship status? [11:30]
• Do long-distance relationships work? [12:30]
• How to be true to yourself in relationships. [15:45]
• Dr. Demartini’s date with a 95 year-old lady. [23:00]
• How our values powerfully influence our lives. [24:45]
• What about when two partners have opposite values? [27:00]
• What’s the link between health, stress and values? [32:30]
• What happens if we run from challenge? [35:00]
• How to deal with someone who is lying to you. [43:15]
• What about sexual polarity and passion in relationships?  [45:15]
• Is quantum entanglement a real phenomenon? [49:00]
• Why do we tend to attract partners who mimic our parents? [55:45]
• If you’ve been hurt in a relationship, do you need to heal through relationship? [58:30]

There are two kinds of expectations in a long-term relationship. Knowing the difference can help you sink or swim in your partnership. See if you can get honest about your expectations of yourself and your partner in this episode.

SHOWNOTES

• The two kinds of expectations [5:45]
• Why laying a trip on someone doesn’t work in a partnership [9:30]
• Why trying to force someone to change never works. [11:45]
• Monogamy as an example of how to set an expectation. [13:45]
• Jayson’s challenge to the listener. [17:15]