Wondering what you can learn from a millennial couple? Turns out it's quite a bit!
Kiyomi and Joel are a mixed-race millennial couple that discovers how much their culture plays into their relationship. These two high school sweethearts grew up together and their system for growing together as they mature (as we all do) is inspiring.
Think where you come from isn't a big part of your love life? Uncertain a couple so young can offer profound wisdom? Prepare to be surprised!
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Couples that survive the toughest relationship challenges are so impressive! Leahnora and Noah are one of those couples. Cheating nearly tore them apart but they made commitments to change themselves and now they're stronger than ever before.
What did they do? How do they handle the baggage of their past?
Jayson explores the tough questions here. Also, Leahnora and Noah are still working through some common issues around sexuality and conflict and they share vulnerably about this as Jayson gives some relationship coaching.
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Is your spiritual growth helping your relationship? Are you collaborating with your partner to better yourself as an individual? Or are you going to your corner of the house to meditate all by yourself?
Their careers as therapists and decades of mediation experience have lead Jayson Gaddis and his wife Ellen Boeder to multiple spiritual development discoveries. Turns out even the most spiritually advanced amongst us struggle with relationships. Jayson and Ellen also encourage couples to discover how collaboration with a partner in times of stress can strengthen each individual.
This episode is full of tips for anyone interested in bettering themselves and their relationship at the same time!
Here are a few highlights:
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'Win a Chance to be Coached By Jayson'
To celebrate my first book, The Smart Couple Quote Book and the Holiday Season, I am giving away 3 big prizes. 2nd place) $200 credit for any of my courses, 3rd place) $30 to be used in the Relationship School store and the Grand Prize is a 45-minute coaching session for you or you and your partner from me! Boom! Who's in?
According to John Gray, women are embracing their masculine side and men their feminine side more than ever before and our new behavior is significantly influencing our biology and the new challenges that we face in our most intimate relationships.
John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, says that as gender roles change, so are our hormones, making many relationships ... well, complicated.
As Jayson finds out in this episode, John Gray is willing to stir up controversy to prove traditional gender roles and behavior shouldn't be abandoned completely if we want to be physically healthy and happy in our relationships.
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The Smart Couple Quote Book is out!
This is a relationship book unlike any other. Add tools to your relationship toolbox with just a minute of reading a day.
You will learn radically simple ways to avoid pointless fights, have better sex, and build an indestructible partnership.
Who is the Smart Couple Quote Book for:
- Singles!
- Couples!
- Friends!
- Coaches!
- Yoga/Meditation Instructors!
- Team Leaders!
- Busy People!
- Lifelong Learners!
- Quote Lovers!
and more....
Take a selfie with your Smart Couple Quote Book for our upcoming photo contest!
Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others?
Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others.
According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy!
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Why do so many men use porn? What is it doing for them?
I think it's obvious that porn can ruin your relationship, but what's not so obvious is why so many men use porn. What is going on inside the male brain.
I have my own theories but I wanted to hear from THE porn expert on this...
Here are a few of the highlights:
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I used to try really hard to get people to think I was a good guy. This is another version of the "nice guy syndrome."
And, it had a big cost.
If you are a nice guy, or you are with a "nice guy" you're going to want to listen to this one because it's quite possible the "nice guy" thing is going to really damage your relationship over time (If it hasn't already).
Here are a few of the highlights:
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Dan Savage is known for his criticism of monogamy. But what is he missing and why does he think it's a disaster waiting to happen? Listen as Jayson takes a swing in Dan's direction.
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Introducing Dan Savage 1:30
Dan Savage on why monogamy does not work 3:00
Is every monogamous relationship a disaster waiting to happen? 5:30
The potency of 'leaning in' 7:00
Monogamy as an expression of learning to love 9:00
If you are serious about not dating another narcissistic man, and you are an awesome woman over 40, 50, or 60, this episode is for you. My guest Bobbi Palmer, of "Date like a grown up" has some great advice for how to stay true to you and get what you want.
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Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain is guiding you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself? What kind of relationship do you have with God? With reality? In this fun interview, Andrew Harvey explores how you can create evolutionary love that is much bigger than the "you" you know yourself to be. Hang on for a wild ride as Andrew takes you into a sacred outlook on how relationships work and how they can serve your soul's calling.
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What Does ‘Do the Work’ Actually Mean?
1:30 Defining ‘doing the work’ 3:00 Developing the self 4:00 What is the inner child? 5:30 How long must we work on the ‘inner child’?
Loyalty is essential in a long-term partnership. Is loyalty different for gay couples? What honest conversations and boundaries are you both talking about? In this episode my guest Jean Malpas has some excellent tips for addressing these concerns and for giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.
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Arielle Ford explores the ups and downs of marriage, what to do with a new age nice guy, and how to rekindle the spark after stuckness. This week's guest got married at age 44, and realized she sucked at listening and didn't know anything about partnership. And now she teaches people all over the world the about the power of attraction, soul mates, and love.
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2:30 Defining emotional abuse
4:45 It Takes Two
5:30 Do you feel safe in your own home?
6:10 It's more complicated than 'just leave.'
7:00 How are you a part of your own abuse cycle?
7:35 Self-reflection and taking responsibility
What does your intention have to do with creating a great relationship?
According to my guest, everything.
If you are single, what vibe are you putting out into the world to attract a mate? If you are partnered, what vibe are you putting into your relationship?
This week's guest has so much to say about upgrading your story and your intention and how that can impact how fulfilled you are in your relationship (or future relationship). She also has some practical tips on how to do exactly that.
If you are trying to "call in the one", or just trying to deepen with the one you have already, this interview is going to help you a ton!
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If you want to understand the long term cost of not repairing a rupture, Dan Siegel, who coined the term interpersonal neurobiology, is about to illuminate your mind.
We discuss how we human beings operate when our "minds" and hearts come together, trauma, and how to fight off disease with presence.
This episode is powerful.
It's for the science nerds and relationship geeks who want to better understand the human nervous system, mindfulness, and even trauma.
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Quote from the Smart Couple Quote Book
Stop wasting time with people who don’t support your fullness. Stop apologizing for who you are. Do not spend another day dimming your light because someone’s uncomfortable. Some people you know will always be uncomfortable with your way and will always judge you. Let them go and keep being you as you are.
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Boundaries are essential in a partnership and Terri Cole knows a lot about them. We talk about getting sober, parenting her inner child, what it takes to have your marriage as a top priority and what women can do to balance being independently strong with interdependently connected. This podcast interview is fun and full of gems.
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QUESTION:
It seems like my husband wants me to change things, and that there are things I want him to change...
Is that the same things as wanting him to grow, just in different terms? I’ve heard you say that people can’t change their partners, but you have said that the goal should be to grow. I’m wondering what the difference is.
How do you accept that your partner isn’t going to change, but then strive or agree to grow?
- Natalie, Denver
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This couple learned how to get stronger through postpartum depression and conflict. Listen how they navigated a big personal crisis and how they helped each other get through it.
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