In this episode we talk briefly about fear and how to deal with it.

http://relationshipschool.com/connected

I think you’ll find this podcast interview very helpful right now. It’s a good reminder of how to work through adversity.

My guest is Mark Divine, a former Navy Seal. This guy’s a machine and doing so much good in the world right now.

Pay special attention to how he got into the Navy Seals.

There are some good lessons that will help you be stronger right now.

Shownotes:

• (5:10) Introduction Mark Divine
• (9:45) Getting into the navy seals
• (16:45) Meditation Breathing advice
• (20:40) The importance of training your thoughts and calm your mind
• (26:45) Using meditation to pinpoint and solving inner problems
• (36:15) Dealing with problems and staying focused on your mission
• (42:00) Why people struggle with their own minds
• (46:35) How young people can become more resilient on adversity
• (50:20) The implications of cutting corners
• (56:35) Self-mastery vs Self-Acceptance
• (1:08:15) Action Step

Useful Links:

https://markdivine.com/

https://staringdownthewolf.com/code-home

https://www.amazon.com/Staring-Down-Wolf-Leadership-Commitments/dp/1250231582

https://unbeatablemind.com/about-mark-divine/

https://sealfit.com/

Are you practicing social distancing? How are you doing this without being a jerk? BOUNDARIES. :)  Here are a few simple tips and my thoughts on how we can stay connected during this crisis. These are intense times and I encourage you to stay at home and learn.

Useful Links:

http://relationshipschool.com/connected https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/ https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/ Chris kresser- RHR: Everything You Need to Know about Coronavirus, with Dr. Ramzi Asfour https://chriskresser.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-coronavirus-with-dr-ramzi-asfour/ Sam Harris podcast - Making Sense https://samharris.org/podcasts/191-early-thoughts-pandemic/

I love teenagers! As you know I used you to work with troubled teens in a variety of settings, from drug treatment centers to wilderness therapy programs.

I think to be skilled with teens requires some serious skill. That’s why I brought my friend Aaron Huey on the podcast to discuss how to deal with difficult teens.

If you are not a parent, this will still be valuable as we discuss addiction, boundaries, and enabling, all issues that come up in adult relationships too.

Listen now!

Shownotes:

• (4:30) Introduction Aaron Huey
• (11:40) How people can get more empowered and overcome victimhood (16:20)
• Advice for parents of kids getting bullied (18:15)
• Exploring negative behaviors on teenagers (22:40)
• About parents expecting treatment centers to fix their kids behavior (26:15)
• Should we blame and call out parents?
• (28:50) Creating family behavior contracts
• (33:00) 4 things that families can do to prevent negative children’s behaviors and decisions
• (36:55) Why parents enable kids’ negative behavior
• (43:15) How mothers react different than fathers
• (48:55) Advice for teenagers struggling with addictions
• (1:00:00) https://firemountainprograms.com/
• (1:05:35) Action Step

Useful Links:

https://firemountainprograms.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

In last week’s podcast, I answered the question people ask me all the time, “Is it okay to have expectations?” 

I came up with 6 expectations that are reasonable to have in a partnership. 

But it’s also important for us to discuss when it’s not okay or when it’s a bad idea to have expectations. I came up with 8 big ones that I DO NOT recommend. 

The biggest one is expecting someone else to live according to your values. Ouch. People do this one all the time, including me! Doah! 

Check out this week’s podcast to hear the other 7. 

Enjoy

Is it okay to have expectations in relationships?

My answer is nuanced. It’s a YES, and it’s a No.

Listen to this short podcast and discover the six expectations that I think are totally reasonable to have in a relationship, especially a partnership.