This week my wife Ellen and I tackle a couple of your questions that got a lot of heat online.
Sarah wrestles with how to realistically reassure her partner that she’s not going anywhere when she doesn’t actually know this for a fact (she’s no psychic).
Linda wonders about how to reinstall trust and move forward after her partner breaks into her phone and reads a private text conversation.
We discuss how our relationships are the strength that can help us deal with the unknowns of tomorrow and appropriate ways of relating in order to steer your relationship toward a secure partnership.
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What would you do if you got 51 text messages from your partner if you needed space? What would you do if your partner took space and continued to be distant with no return time? These are very normal anxious/avoidant relationship dynamics.
In this episode I coach a couple through their anxious avoidant dynamic. I hope it serves you.
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Do you find yourself often at odds or in conflict with your partner/co-parent? Have you agreed to disagree and compartmentalize parenting responsibilities? Are you stuck in your familial-parental roles (one parent = primary breadwinner, the other = primary parent)?
If yes, this episode is a great listen for parents (or aspiring parents, parents-to-be, and separated-co-parents) who can relate to desiring more cohesive collaboration in their parenting game.
If you get a lot from this episode, head to www.relationshipschool.com/upgrade to learn more about the course Ellen and I co-created for partners who need support learning to collaborate.
Do you ever wonder if or how your kids experience your anxiety/stress levels? How does your nervous system and theirs inform one another? Do you take time to reflect on where you are in your journey as a human and how that may affect your capacity to develop resiliency?
Join my wife Ellen and I to discuss how being mindful of our nervous system can help us build resilient children.
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How do you manage triggers and share emotions at the same time? Ever keep score in a partnership? Ugh. Do you feel like you are disagreeing too much? Join my wife and I as we help you address all of these as it relates to your questions.
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How do we help each other feel safe and secure? Tune in to listen to Ellen, and I's experiential conversation series “Rando Chat" over a cup of coffee. In this week's episode, we discuss our day, our family, and how we co-regulate just by existing in one another's orbits as a couple and family.
Enjoy the episode, and let us know your thoughts and feelings about this experimental episode in the comments.
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Reggie is the @DharmaOceanFoundation's co-founder and spiritual director, a university professor (retired) at Naropa University, and a highly respected meditation/dharma teacher.
Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including how being spiritually minded is not necessarily synonymous with being relationally developed or particularly skillful, and the importance of treating every human with respect, despite any issue or conflict.
Listen to the full episode to hear more about Reggie and his powerful journey.
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In this week’s episode I unpack a recent Instagram reel I posted that went viral. Here are the 5 kinds of people to avoid in partnerships:
Listen in to hear more.
How do we raise boys in a good way so they become adult men that we want to be in a relationship with? In this week’s episode we connect with Larry Hagner, founder of @thedadedge and father to four boys. Larry shares his unique childhood story, and dives into the challenges and rewards of raising boys differently in a culture that tells boys to hide their feelings, suck it up, and not be relational. Take a listen to learn about raising your kid(s) with more connection, curiosity, and psychological safety.
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Do you know the fastest way to get back to connection? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner?
Listen here as I offer you a few tips to get both and share details about our upcoming virtual event ‘Accepted & Connected’ coming up on April 8-9, 2022.
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There’s no doubt it’s difficult to get on the same financial page with your partner. Differences in mindset and approach are likely, but that doesn’t mean you can’t create a plan. In this week’s episode, I connect with life hacker extraordinaire, Chris Hutchins, who’s full of tips and wisdom. Plus, ever thought of going on a trip around the world to “vet” a partner? Chris did just that. Take a listen.
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We could all focus on becoming more resilient during these stressful times. Here are a few tips on how to develop resilience in yourself. And, if you are a parent, here are some tips for building resilience in kids. What is one way you build resilience in yourself? Drop a comment below.
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Parenting is tough. It can be an easy thing to get caught up in focusing on your child’s well-being and behavior—and lose sight of your own. But it’s important to maintain your self-awareness as you parent, and I discuss the reasons with author and Zen Parenting Radio expert Cathy Cassani Adams in this week’s episode. Cathy’s expertise is beyond valuable for any parent, so check out the episode for the unpacking session.
Can you believe we’re nearing two years into the pandemic? It’s crazy how much we’ve been through and also how much we humans have still been able to accomplish.
But the stress is definitely taking its toll on all of us, and I think it’s important to remember that we’re all relational beings in this scenario together.
It can be too easy to substitute a screen for a person or to avoid fostering a connection for one reason or another when we do have human interaction.
So what’s the best way to keep all this in mind and try to mitigate the collective stress—together—as we go on with our lives?
Ellen and I dissect that a bit in this week’s episode, so take a breather and listen for some ideas!
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If you’re a parent, it can be difficult to navigate the parent/child relationship and build something strong that lasts well into adulthood.
Who better to share their insights than a parent-and-adult-child combo?
For this week’s podcast episode, I am joined by Dr. Rick Hanson and his son, Forrest Hanson, for an intimate discussion on cultivating that healthy parent/child relationship that lasts.
Check out the episode for a great learning experience.
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It’s true that opposites attract, and that even applies to your attachment style. But still, it can be difficult to navigate a relationship when you want to talk and your partner wants space.
Does that mean you’re with the wrong person and you should just end the relationship? Ellen and I answer this listener question in this week’s podcast, and we give you and your partner a path to aim for in your relationship.
Check it out for some insights and a little peace of mind.
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Sex can be tough to discuss and even tougher to experience at times. But avoiding or pretending within our relationships gets us nowhere.
It’s important to find a safe and balanced place & time to discuss things in your partnership because that’s how you experience sexual growth as a couple. Finding that balance is crucial to learning how to experience your best pleasure—and allowing that for your partner as well.
This week’s podcast guests, Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, join me to discuss what they’ve learned in their own journeys and research as well as what they talk about on their podcast, “Shameless Sex.”
Check out the full episode and as always, share your feedback!
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Knowing your attachment style (and your partner’s) can better help you navigate conflict and repair, but how?
This basic human need is ingrained in all of us, yet it’s often overlooked or misunderstood.
Check out this week’s episode as Ellen and I talk more about how attachment styles factor into relationships and reasons it’s crucial to understand them.
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You know your “gut feelings” are there for a reason, but sometimes it’s hard to figure out what all they’re trying to tell you. But not listening to your gut actually goes way deeper…it affects your soul and causes you to separate from your true self.
This week, I talk with author, speaker, and coach Martha Beck, whose lifetime of experience gives her a balanced perspective in many areas.
Listen to the full episode to learn insights on how to live as your true self and to hear Martha’s amazing journey toward finding hers.
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Does your partner get defensive, angry, or triggered when you talk about tough feelings in your relationship? That can be a difficult situation to navigate. We will all be triggered by something in our lives (it’s unavoidable), but there are ways to make it a bit easier for both sides in the relationship. For this week’s podcast episode, Ellen and I address this listener question and offer our thoughts. Give it a listen if you can relate.
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The pandemic has affected every area of our lives—even relationships and dating. But what does the dating scene look and feel like these days…and what’s the best way to navigate it?
I’m joined this week by the knowledgeable Shaun Galanos, coach, speaker, and love guru, who talks with me about pandemic dating and what’s different/what’s not.
He has some really valuable insights to share, so check out the episode to learn more.
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Setting goals in your relationship may or may not be something you’re intentional about. But if you’re making a list of resolutions for the new year, it’s a great time to add relationship goals to that list. Wondering where to start and how to go about it?
Check out this week’s podcast episode, where I go over all this plus some vital basics to get you thinking.
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It’s normal in relationships to be growing at a different rate than your partner. But as one listener asks, how can you deal with the difference…and how long should you wait to be on the same page?
This is a great question, and Ellen and I share our thoughts on it in this week’s episode. Listen for both of our perspectives—and let us know your thoughts as well! We love to hear your feedback.
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We all can’t deny the world is in a precarious place these days for many reasons. So what are some things we can do to improve the state we’re in?
I talk in this week’s podcast episode with author and speaker Danielle LaPorte, whose calm demeanor and beneficial guidance on subjects like parenting, relationships, love, and simplifying will make you think about what you can do to change your world.
Take a listen to the episode and see what you think.
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Are you and your partner really compatible? How can you know for sure?
Well, there’s another way to look at it—a better question to ask yourself. It’s important, and it can be the determining factor in the success or failure of your relationship.
So what’s that question? Ellen and I talk about it in this week’s episode... check it out for yourself!
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